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Making friends (Monash Malaysia)
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Friendships
Many people make lifelong friends at university. It is normal for friendships to be a bit awkward at the start. You will feel more comfortable as you get to know people.
Making friends
- Talk to other students between classes, even if it is just a small comment
- Smile and start conversations with people while you are waiting in a queue
- Eat and drink together with other people whenever you can
- Join a student or community group
- Join a sports team or go to the gym regularly
- Join a study group
Communication tips
In his book 'Making Contact', Dr Arthur Wasamar suggests the SOFTEN system.
| S mile | It shows you are friendly and and approachable |
| O pen your posture | Uncross you arms and legs and you'll look more relaxed |
| F orward | Lean toward the person or move closer to show you are paying attention |
| T ouch | A hand on another person's arm can be a welcome gesture |
| E ye contact | This shows that you want to hear what the other person is saying |
| N od | It shows that you understand and are interested in keeping the conversation going |
Need help?
- Monash Society and Clubs
- Make an appointment to see a student counsellor today.
- International buddy program
References
Dr A. Wasamar, Making Contact: A Guide to Overcoming Shyness, revised ed. (Henry Holt and Co, 1991)